“ Just to make myself clear, I honestly do not know what is happening to the world…
Teens having unprotected and out-of-wedlock sexual intercourse (applies to adults as well), gross adults making love with either willing or forced minor, irresponsible yet repulsive parents recording tapes of them having sex with their own flesh and blood, not to mention extreme bullying, racism, religion-related wars and so on…
The society is so messed up that these things happened. Like what happened with these particular individuals?
13 and 15 year-old are having out-of-wedlock sex, willingly and freely. End up conceiving a baby (Not that the baby is the problem) which possibly unable to be taken care of. Possibly. (I’m not doubting the kids parenting ability or whatever, but the fact is, a lot of grown-up parents find it hard being parents)
This got me thinking; WHAT IS HAPPENING TO THE WORLD?“
On Who should we point our fingers on the occurrence on cases like this?
Parenting failure? The mass media? The corrupted society? Lacking of sexual education? Peer pressure?
A shy, elfin-faced lad with still unbroken voice, quite innocent looking boy, Alfie Patten, 13 years old (year 2009) was supposed to be the father to baby girl Maisie Roxanne after his 15-year-old girlfriend, Chantelle Steadman gave birth to baby Maisie.
According to the reports, it was a one-time sex, and, well she got pregnant, obviously =,=
It was one time.
One fricking time =.=
While I was 13, I was still thinking about Unicorns (don’t ask why), waiting in the weekend morning for my favourite cartoons (especially Avatar The Last Airbender), playing PS2 (especially Naruto) and so on… *Kids stuff* *Actually still am +…= *
So when a 13-year-old kid found out that he was going to be a father, was it like…
The thing is.. He doesn’t have any idea what life-changing experience he’s heading..
Alfie’s father Dennis, 45, a daddy to nine children, said his son “could not fathom the enormity of the birth.” wow, why, I’m not surprised..
What would you do, if you get a 15-year-old girl pregnant, and you are only 12-years-old?
How are you going to support the baby financially?
Let’s talk about FINANCIAL.. the boy-dad, Alfie admitted that he does not
know how much nappies would cost, and then said ; ” I think it’s a lot.”
(Well, he guessed that’s one right).. He told the press that when he and
girlfriend discovered about the pregnancy, they decided to against
abortion.. one of my favorite words mentioned by Alfie is when he said…
“I didn’t think about how we would afford it. I don’t really get pocket money. My dad sometimes gives me £10″
£10 is not enough dear.. to buy some chocolate bar, biscuits and perhaps and maybe some cold drinks.. but even nappies are way more expensive compare to the money your dad gave you..well, the money that your dad SOMETIMES give you~~ now, that’s really suck, dude…
The 4 feet tall guy also added: “When my mum found out, I thought I was going to get in trouble. We wanted to have the baby but were worried how people would react.” (Gee, I wonder why people wouldn’t freak out about it..) He also mentioned: “I didn’t know what it would be like to be a dad. I will be good, though, and care for it.”
“I didn’t know what it would be like to be a dad. I will be good, though, and care for it.” -Alfie.
That’s really touching and inspiring and don’t forget that he is STILL A KID! *A big round of applause*
Being a dad is difficult enough for almost every adult, what possibly can a child do to take care of a child when they hardly even manage and take care of themselves?
So here’s the ULTIMATE BOMBSHELL : When SEVEN BOYS came out and confessed that they might be Maisie’s father because they also slept with Chantelle before..wait, what??
Alfie was take aback, and refused to believe in any of the claims…
Then he agreed to take a DNA test with the other seven boys to prove that he’s the real daddy.
and BAM! He’s NOT THE DADDY after all! The actual daddy is some actual 14-year-old, Tyler Baker.
Alfie was devastated that the child wasn’t his.. and even made an appearance with a hoodie that says :
“I’M THE DADDY. IF I’M NOT, F**K YOU ALL, I’LL STILL BE THERE”
It moved an impressed me on so many levels how this one kid wanted to be, (even the fact that he wasn’t) the father of baby Maisie. I truly think that he deserves a round of applause (not for having sex -_- ) but for willingly taking responsible, standing up for what he believes in and not running away when your girl got pregnant (unlike most jerks) .. this is because there’s a lot of actual grown-up man who doesn’t have the guts to stand up for their actions.
So kudos kid! *Again, not for having sex*
Regardless of who’s the actual biological father, who wants to be the father or how MESSED UP this story is, the main point that should be focused and pointed out is this might be another case of PARENTING FAILURE (I’m not blaming or saying the parents as bad parents) , PEER PRESSURE, SEXUAL EDUCATION, MASS MEDIA (it’s impossible that this is not one of the factors) or any kinds of other influence.
My number one culprit would be the mass media.
I mean, come on, you can’t deny how “evolved” the entertainment industry really is. sexual, intimate scenes are shown explicitly on TV, movies, (even kid’s cartoons like WTF) *Nowadays, it’s more of a norm* , music videos , songs nowadays are tonnes of shitty music like *Although I kind of like the beat but still..* Anaconda by Nicki Minaj, *I don’t hate her, just this particular song. The song is playing on air about this “Anaconda bigger than Eifel Tower, Fat ass and everything in between”
I was listening to it on the radio, even dancing to the beat until I finally understand the frickin’ meaning of the song and how my nephew keep repeating the “My anaconda don’t want none unless you got buns, hun“. That is when I; “What the.. =.=”
A lot of this exact scenarios where young, immature youth (teenagers especially) made a huge mistake and entangled in this problem. Not just these teens, but a lot of other young people go through the same mistakes. The same problem.
Maisie Roxanne was born when a bunch of children are trying to play adult. Chantelle’s mother, stood by her side glibly talked to the world that it’s not going to be much of a problem, but, how well did she raised the girl to know the demands of being a parent?
*Again, I’m not implying that she is not a good mother.
What responsibility lessons had been instilled to the boys’ minds that they can’t even tell the difference of bad and good? I’m really happy that they decided to go against abortions, (because that’s the right thing to do) but, the fact that they had sex at the age of not anywhere of even thinking;
“I want to have sex..”
Sexual education in schools have to be more effective. This out-of-wedlock sex (not that I’m very religious person) happens among teens nowadays, and even though some schools implement this curriculum, well, it’s not showing results. The Education ministry need to find ways to improve sexual education.
Last but not least, to parents.. take care of your kids and raise them well.. We wouldn’t want this thing happen to our kids, but even if it did happened * I believe sometimes things happened for reason*, Show your support *not supporting you-know-what* but by letting them know that you are there to help and give support.
I don’t really think the idea of babies having babies a very good idea… agree??
Just to share a little view from an Islamic perspective (and I’m sure every religion also teach their followers to be good parents not just Islam)
This parental responsibility belongs not only to the father. The Prophet is reported to have said: “Take care! Each of you is a shepherd and each of you shall be asked concerning his flock; a leader is a shepherd of his people, and he shall be asked concerning his flock; and a man is a shepherd of the people of his house, and he shall be asked concerning his flock; and a woman is a shepherd of the house of her husband and over their children, and she shall be asked concerning them.” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]
An excellent example of Good parenting found in the words of Luqmaan to his son, related in the Quran, where he admonishes his son:
- Not to ascribe divine powers to anything other than Allaah.
- To be good and kind to parents.
- To obey parents unless they command what is wrong.
- To understand that all our deeds, however minor, are recorded and will be brought to light.
- To be constant in prayer.
- To enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong.
- To bear what befalls him with patience.
- To avoid pride, arrogance and boastfulness.
- To be modest in manner and speech
To Alfie and Chantelle, if you are reading this, kudos for not killing Maisie during your pregnancy. You are in a very challenging path right now, so be strong and I know you have great parents to support you. I am not in your shoes, I’m not writing this to humiliate you guys,I just want your story to be a lesson to everyone else, although this statement will get me bashed by readers either with “fake sincerity” or “attention-seeking”.
*proofread, edited, altered, reposted and every thing to make this post less shitty than it were before.
*please don’t start any religious war. If you still want to (Not that I want to) please do your homework first then comment.
*You will find, I highly doubt you won’t, grammatical errors and all those English thingy (I have terrible grasp in English), I’m a teen just like Alfie and Chantelle, (unlike what most people think I am). Anyway, please comment kindly 🙂